Yep, it happened to me. Scammed. Me, the cynic! The one who is overly cautious. Stingy with information. Me. I was scammed because I let my heart get in the way of my head.
Thank goodness I had the good sense to stop the incident before it could go very far, but the fact remains. . .I got took!
I’ve spent a few days walking the road to recovery. It’s the same 7 steps that anyone goes through who’s experienced a trauma or loss: Shock/denial, pain/guilt, anger, depression/loneliness, the upward turn, rebuilding, acceptance and hope (I think I’ve hit the anger part). Still it is a process to heal when you find your vulnerability and realized someone else capitalized on it.
As I began to write on my next chapter, I realized just how much this scam affected me. No matter how I tried to concentrate on the words to write, the negative self-talk overtook it all. Stupid. How could you be so gullible? And then it got worse – What if I’ve put my family in danger? What if they manage to find their way into our bank accounts? Fear set in.
As writers, it’s easy for us to tell one another to just keep writing when they’ve hit a wall. We know that’s what we need to do – push through, power on. It’s that way with anything we face in life. Face the music and then move ahead, otherwise we find ourselves wallowing in the mire. Stuck and sinking fast. If we flop around long enough, we’ll give up and be sucked under.
Whether you’ve hit a snag in your thought process or failed to receive that contract you’d hoped for – when you experience a rough patch it gets hard to peck at the keyboard. Don’t worry. Here are some tips to help you plow through the dark times and reemerge on the other side.
It was enough to BE scammed by someone else, but it’s worse to scam yourself by believing the lies we tell ourselves. Rise above the scam and write your very best.
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When Words of Encouragement Wane
Writers Be Encouraged
The Bachelor – Stephanie Reed
The Making of a Servant
Defy the Night – REVIEW
When the Work is Hard to Do
Review of The Vicar’s Wife
The In on Self Publishing – Part 1
In a Pickle
Bigger and Better
Can You Hear Me Now?